Sunday, April 24, 2016

What is a trapped emotion?

Did you know negative energies can become trapped in the body during emotionally charged events?

Because the body is actually made of pure energy negative trapped emotions can cause a damaging force on the body, which worsens over time. Trapped emotions can cause pain, self sabotage, emotional problems and all kinds of malfunction and dis-ease.

How can we get rid of trapped emotions?

The subconscious mind is the ultra computer system of the body; it knows just what we need to do to be happy and healthy. The Transformation Code uses specific questioning and muscle testing (kinesiology) to find the trapped emotions that need to be cleared. After the trapped emotion is identified it is ready to be released. To do this, we set an intention to release the emotion. That charged intention is energetically placed into the body through the Governing Meridian, then it is directed through the body and releases the emotion.

What is the Transformation Code?

It is  non-invasive, totally safe and requires very little time and effort on your part. No digging up the past is required, which makes it very cost effective as compared to other kinds of therapy. It creates a state of balance within your body and energy field so that true and profound healing can take place. Everything that is discussed or discovered is always confidential.

What can you expect from a session?

Most people say the Transformation Code helps them feel lighter and more free, but we frequently see the disappearance of health and emotional issues, too. Your results will depend on how many trapped emotions you have and how quickly your body responds after they are removed. Releasing  trapped emotions helps restore balance to the body so your body's natural healing ability will be allowed to return. This means you will be able to recover gently from your ailments and gain a stronger immune system, too!

Where to start?

The first step is to set up an appointment. You can start with a consultation  if you want to move more slowly or you can choose to dive right in with a full session. I will support you in whatever direction you feel is best for you. During your first session we can discuss the options to either target a particular problem, or you can keep it more general and request to address the imbalances that are keeping you from achieving your true potential. You don't need to know much about how it works - just be ready, willing and open to heal.

What will you receive?

You will receive a written report after your session, detailing what was done and including any suggestions for further care.

Still curious if the Transformation Code is for you or not?

I offer a 30 minute, no-charge consultation. This gives you the opportunity to learn about how the Transformation Code techniques can help restore overall health and balance. Together we will pinpoint and release up to 3 trapped emotions.

I invite you to schedule a session with me by emailing Please include your name, phone number and the best time to call.  I look forward to being part of your journey to health and wellness.

Cheering you on!!!

Sunday, March 22, 2015

Is Love Expansive or Constrictive

Common beliefs of what it means to love are often filled with expectations for reciprocity that can get us into trouble. I know this personally. I remember times in my past when I felt I had “freely” given my love, and it was not returned, this brought me face to face with my resentment.
This has been especially true of my close relationships. I have wanted the people who fall into this category, in particular, to reciprocate my love. And I expect them to. However, as the quote above from Thich Nhat Hanh points out, love is expansive, not constrictive.
For example, I had a boyfriend, who seemed to genuinely like spending time with me, but didn’t make our relationship much of a priority in his life. This was a guy who was pretty laid back in general and so I discounted his aloofness and tried to be patient, thinking we’d eventually turn a corner.
What became clear, over the course of a few years, is that my patience was covering up a multitude of disappointed expectations for him to give back what I had so generously given. And in the end I felt angry and betrayed.
The big question is: by whom really?
After some time had passed, I was able to look back on the situation with a little more objectivity, and it became clear I’d entered into the relationship with typical expectations for attention, time, comfort, and affection—in other words, an agenda.
Now please understand, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be loved.
We all deserve to be loved from our significant other and should be conscious to choose partners whose love for us is a natural and abundant outpouring of their feelings, and who also, want to invest in us and our well-being.
The desire to be loved when it is fueled by any underlying agendas or feelings of isolation and loneliness—can be very difficult. Because it often turns a relationship into some version of, “I’ll scratch your back, if you’ll scratch mine.” Real love isn’t contractual.
This kind of “hidden agenda” along with unspoken expectations only creates a weak foundation for a relationship. Just like in my previous relationship, he failed to invest in the relationship, and I failed to draw good boundaries; I settled for being used, rather than being loved.
Revealed in all this was the fact that I hadn’t exactly been looking after my own needs very well. I’d neglected and betrayed myself, in some sense, and needed to assume greater responsibility for my own personal happiness.
To that end I began a quest for finding the sense of inner contentment and satisfaction I so craved, but was not in possession of. I read books, attended trainings and seminars, watched films, and made note of what resonated with me and what didn't—what stirred my passion and enthusiasm for life.
I became more curious about my inner life. An act of love in itself.
What I have learned the hard way is that a healthy, resilient love stands the best chance of materializing between people who have been on a path of self discovery and, most importantly, know who they are as individuals. And this is a work in progress.
Just as life is always moving and reshaping itself, this is true with love.
Therefore, loving in such a way that the person we love feels free is as simple and straightforward as it is complex.
One of my favorite quotes from Rumi really gets to the heart of the matter.
“And still, after all this time, the Sun has never said to the Earth
‘You owe me’.
Look what happens with love like that.
It lights up the sky.”
Ultimately, to give love is its own reward. Be Generous. Be Expansive. Be Inclusive. Be Receptive. Be Liberating.

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Friday, March 13, 2015

The Cost of Putting Others First

What do you think of when you hear the words self care? I believe it is a misunderstood concept, and have recently learned just how important self care is.

There’s been a long-held belief that people are worthy of respect when they put others before themselves. People have often evaluated their own worth (and the degree to which they deserve value in society) by their ability to contribute and place the needs of others before themselves.

Self-care is a touchy subject. That’s because our society largely views self-care as selfish, lazy and overly indulgent. Yet, it’s anything but. Taking good care of yourself not only makes your life more fulfilling and contributes to your well-being, but it also extends to others.

This became crystal clear to me in my own life when I missed out on a chance to be part of a wonderful event. This seminar is put on by someone who I hold in high esteem and I was so excited to serve and be part of an amazing community that is near and dear to my heart. But because I had been putting myself last and not taking care of my needs I fell into a depression. By the time the event came around I was in no shape to show up and serve. My fear of being viewed as selfish along with my false belief that people are worthy of respect when they put others before themselves, cost me not only my emotional health but also missing out on an opportunity that I had been looking forward to for several months. What have you missed out on by neglecting yourself?

We can only maintain physical health and emotional health when self-care is a priority. When we take responsibility for ourselves, making sure that our needs are taken care of,  we come to the world as the best version of ourselves; fully nourished on all levels and ready to nourish those around us.

In fact, giving yourself permission to take care of you is probably the best thing you can do for the people in your life. Not only will you be happier and healthier, but those around you will be, too.

The lesson I learned, is that through self-care we become conscious and conscientious people. We tell the truth. We make choices from a place of love and compassion instead of guilt and obligation.

I am also learning that self-care takes practice. At first it might seem awkward to say no to something or someone. At first, you might feel guilty for taking time for yourself. But with practice, it’ll become more natural and automatic. And you’ll notice that you feel a whole lot more fulfilled.

Are you ready to experience the benefits of self-care?

Sunday, March 8, 2015

Learning to Surrender

Maybe you're praying that a loved one recovers from a serious illness -- or that you will get that new job, or that your son gets into his top college choice. Whatever the situation, times like these challenge us to go beyond life skills like critical thinking or organization. In these kind of situations, when we truly have no influence in the outcome, only a higher, more spiritual skill will get us through: the ability to surrender.

Knowing how to surrender requires patience and practice. But it's worth it. When I think about my own life, I can see that when I'm able to relinquish my will to a higher power, things are no longer a struggle; life gets easier. I don't waste large amounts of energy trying to maintain an illusion of control. Instead, I find that by letting go of my grip, a power greater than myself seems to take hold and guide me where I need to go.

Our source of suffering is always related to our resistance to what is. The soul doesn't try to control life; the ego does. When your ego has a tight grip around a desire, your peace of mind and happiness are held captive by a compulsive need to control the outcome. After enough pain and suffering, we’ll eventually get the message: “If I don't learn to surrender my will, I will surrender my peace.”

It takes a leap of faith to surrender our way for the right way. It means letting go of how we think things should be and accepting them as they are. When we surrender, it doesn't mean that we throw our hands in the air and do nothing; it means we pay close attention and become aware of our intuition so we can act on this wisdom. Then, once we've done all that we are guided to do, we let go and allow grace to shine a light on a better path -- one that brings about the result that ultimately serves our highest good.

The idea of letting go became clearer to me several years ago when I wanted to move to a new home, in a better location. In my search for a new place it became clear that my rent was going to go up at least $400! I was already living paycheck to paycheck, and I couldn’t figure out how this was going to happen. I was extremely disappointed. Every time I thought about finding a new home, I'd get upset all over again. I tried to think of ways I could increase my income. Finally, I got tired of agonizing over it and let it go. I decided if I was meant to move it would happen, and I stopped obsessing about it.

When an opportunity came to look at a place I really wanted, the owners asked me what I could afford. I told them an amount that was a stretch for me, however, it was under what they were asking. Even though this place was everything I wanted in a home, I knew I didn’t want to be financially strapped. That evening the owners called me and offered me a deal, to rent their place for the amount I had said I could afford, and in return I was to be a property manager for them. As I hung up the phone, I was in awe, feeling both nervous and relieved.  The next morning I found out  a client of mine decided they no longer needed my services and I was let go! Now my income was going to be reduced a few hundred dollars! As I sat there wondering what to do, feeling very discouraged, I said a prayer and turned it over to the Divine, surrendering my will once again. That evening, to my surprise, I received another phone call from someone wanting to hire me. This not only replaced the income, I thought I had lost, but increased it! By letting go and surrendering my will,  I learned an important lesson. Things often work out for the best in ways that we can't possibly imagine and don't expect.

Learning to surrender doesn't require a long, drawn out series of painfully complicated steps. A simple prayer such as "Help me to accept the things I can't change" can go a long way toward giving us the strength we need to let something go. Let your prayer be a call to grace, one that says, "I'll trust my intuition, take the steps that feel right, and do my best to let go of my attachment to the outcome." Surround yourself with reminders that will inspire you to let things go. I have a picture in my office and also a magnet with the saying, “Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly”. When I'm struggling, these signs remind me to trust and let things unfold as they may. And here's the interesting thing about letting go: When we learn to surrender, we then make space for true miracles to happen.

Are you ready for a miracle?

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Thursday, March 5, 2015


What does it mean to forgive? Some of us think it is the acceptance, approval, or allowing of bad behavior. And that is not it at all. I have found that forgiveness is an act of self-love and self-preservation. Its true purpose is to release us from pain and suffering, so that we can go on and live in love and inner-peace. To forgive is to reclaim our power. The event or person who caused us suffering no longer controls how we feel. When we forgive we are set free. Therefore, forgiveness means freedom!

Un-forgiveness is the root of all bitterness. If we remain unforgiving, we block the voice of love, which only leads to more bitterness and critical thinking. Who suffers most from the anger, pain, and resentment you feel? You, always you. One of my favorite passages in A Course in Miracles states: “The unforgiving mind is full of fear, and offers love no room to be itself; no place where it can spread its wings in peace and soar above the turmoil of the world. The unforgiving mind is sad, without the hope of respite and release from pain. It suffers and abides in misery, peering about in darkness, seeing not, yet certain of the danger lurking there.” Forgiveness, on the other hand, is the foundation of a life filled with love and miracles.
Forgiveness is an essential part of living our best life. Without it we could waste our whole life away in agony or resentment. No one should live this way.  Living a life full of joy and inspiration requires a serious commitment to forgiveness, and the process begins by first forgiving ourselves. As I look back over my life I am able to see how holding on to past resentments toward myself is what kept me stuck in old fear patterns and held me back from living a free flowing life of love. I can honestly say that through forgiveness I have experienced miracles.

How do we forgive? Here’s what works for me:

I begin with the understanding that by holding onto un-forgiveness, I am harming myself, and by letting go of the negative thoughts and grudges, I free up the space for new experiences of love, inspiration, success, connectedness, health, and power. I remind myself that forgiveness unlocks the chains that hold me hostage and keep me from moving on. I recognize that I cannot take the actions of others personally. I know that I am not the real cause of their behavior, and that anyone who triggered their fear or upset would have received the same treatment. I remind myself that to blame makes me a victim, and I refuse to live in victimhood. Besides empowering myself, I know that forgiveness improves my health, relationships, my well-being. I ask for help. I ask my Creator/ Source/ God to take the burden from me. I ‘turn it over” to Spirit and give thanks that I am free. I reflect on the truth I choose to live my life by: Love is the most powerful force in existence and I am one with it. If the feelings are intense, I might write everything I have to say, unedited, unrestrained, and unfiltered, and when I feel complete, I (safely) burn the writings. Sometimes, I light a candle and send every unforgiving thought away in its flame. There may be ways that work better for you. I encourage you to seek them. How you forgive is not important, only that you do it. Only your freedom matters.

I'd love to know how you forgive. Comment below and share an insight with me.
~Cindy Montano